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How To Choose Your Bridesmaids Dresses

How to choose your bridesmaids dresses

Dressing your bridesmaids can be a difficult thing to do. Although they have accepted the role of being your bridesmaid, there needs to be an equal level of respect between you, as the bride, and your bridesmaids.

You want your bridesmaids to look and feel special, but you should also want them to feel confident and happy in what they’re wearing. With weddings generally involving a lot of attention being casted upon the bride, groom, the bridesmaids and groomsmen, this can put a lot of pressure on someone who may not be very body confident.

You probably already have a colour choice in mind, as this usually will fall hand in hand with your overall colour theme. But before making a decision on the actual style of dress, it would be a really great idea to plan a girls night, and get your bridesmaids round to talk dresses.

Your bridesmaids will appreciate that you value their opinion and they may have some great ideas up their sleeves that you hadn’t yet considered. Pop the cork on the prosecco and start discussing with your girlfriends what sort of styles they like, what they would feel confident in and what they would not feel confident in.

Bounce around your ideas and come up with suggestions as a team on which bridesmaids dresses you want to start looking for. In most occasions, your bridesmaids will be more than happy to go along with your ideas, but it’s always nice to involve them as much as you can, and make the most out of a girlie night at the same time!

If time is of the essence, and you have had the go ahead from the girls to pick the dresses without them, then there will be a few things you need to consider.

Shapes and sizes

It is most likely that you will have bridesmaids of different shapes and sizes, and you should try to dress them to suit their body type.

The good thing is that there is now more of a trend to dress bridesmaids in the same colour, but in different styles to suit their body type, rather than dressing them all uniformly in the same thing.

By dressing them to their body types, you can have that extra bout of confidence that they will feel comfortable, happy and confident in themselves on the day. If you want to see an example of how to dress different body shapes, then the main body types for women are outlined in our Dressing the Bride section.


When it comes to colour there are plenty to choose from, and the bridesmaid dresses are probably going to be one of the most important things that make up your colour scheme.

Although you may already have a colour scheme in mind, you should get your bridesmaids to try on dresses before making your final decision, as you may find the colour you had in mind really doesn’t suit your bridesmaids, and you may need to go for a different shade of that colour, or another colour entirely.

If you’re going for different style dresses for each bridesmaid, then you should try to get these from the same shop where possible. This will ensure that the material is from the same dye, and that they all match in colour – unless you are having different colours or shades for each bridesmaid, of course.

You would not normally dress your maid of honour or bridesmaids in white, but if you do, you may wish to team it up with a coloured ribbon to make yourself stand out a bit more. For example, if you are having a black and white themed wedding, then you may choose a white bridesmaid dress with a black sash, or vice versa.

The Maid of Honour

Many brides have their bridesmaid and maid of honour wearing the same, but if you wish for her to stand out from the rest, there are several ways you could do this.

She could wear a dress of the same colour but a different design, or if you have two colours, she would wear the opposite to the bridesmaids. Alternatively, you could give her a slightly different bouquet, or hair band/style.


If you are having your dresses made to measure, then you should ensure that the same person measures each bridesmaid where possible. If different people are measuring your bridesmaids, then they may measure differently and you may end up with dresses at differing heights etc.

If you are measuring your bridesmaids then ensure that you double check all measurements. If you are unsure as to how to measure a particular area, ask your dressmaker.

Paying for the dresses

Traditionally, the bridesmaid dresses, shoes and accessories are bought for them, but it is now becoming more acceptable that the bridesmaids pay for all of these, or some of them themselves. If you are going to ask your bridesmaids to pay for anything, make sure that you are clear and upfront about this – this will then give them a chance to save, or say that they are unable to do so.

When you place your order, make sure that all details on the order are correct – including measurements, colour, fabric, the date of your wedding, and a note of any special requests you have made.