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How To Nail Your Wedding Speech!

How To Nail Your Wedding Speech

The Speeches

Here it is, the moment you’ve been dreading all day, the speeches!

Traditionally, there are three speeches at a wedding - the father of the bride's speech; the groom's speech and finally the best man's speech. These speeches are a focal point of the day and something that the wedding guests will remember for a long time after the wedding day (better get it right, eh!).

Speech delivery

Slow down!

The single worst mistake to make when delivering your speech is talking too quickly. This will come from the natural nervousness you will feel, and when human instincts kick-in, you will want to get the speech over and done with as quickly as possible.

Our tip? Don't! Slow it down. Not only will this mean that the audience can actually understand what you are saying but it will also allow them to have time to laugh. And, let's face it, that's what everyone at the wedding is expecting.

Practise makes perfect

Make sure that your speech is well rehearsed. You do not want it to seem like you are just reading off of a piece of paper. By all means, take your notes with you but memorise most of it first. This will help the audience to be more engaged as you will be looking at them and interacting more, rather than just staring down at your piece of paper.

Other useful tips

If you’re thinking about giving yourself a bit of Dutch courage, DON’T. It may hinder you delivering your speech clearly. And let’s be honest - once you have had one glass, you may decide you need another, and another and another! I think we can both picture how this would affect your speech. After all, you won’t want to spoil what could be one of the most entertaining parts of the wedding.

Voice Projection

Voice projection is key. You do not want to be so quiet that the people at the back cannot hear you, but you don’t want to be so loud that the people at the front feel as though you’re shouting at them. Find that balance and everything will run smoothly.

Every wedding speech should have a few jokes in order to keep the light hearted vibe going 

Here are a few of our favourites:

Father of the Bride:
  • I’d like to start by saying it’s an honour to stand here today. I get to speak, you have to listen, and for a man who’s been married for the past 25 years (insert your own anniversary here!) this is a rare privilege.

  • (Groom's name) I would like to welcome you into the family, even though you have been part of it for a while now. I think you have been with (bride's name) long enough to know what you are letting yourself in for, so to be honest I haven’t got any sympathy for you.
  • When it comes to talking about my bride’s good points, where do I start? She’s intelligent, generous, hard working, popular and a brilliant judge of character.

  • Thank you for all your wonderful gifts. I can’t tell you how much they mean to us – but I should have a better idea after the honeymoon, once I’ve spoken to the guy in the pawn shop.
Best Man:
  • I have to say that being best man you get to see behind the scenes – and let me tell you it isn’t pretty. Tears, hissy fits, chucking lipstick and mascara all over the place… luckily, I’ve be informed that our bride was better behaved than the groom.

  • Well, what can I tell you about the groom? I’ve known him for about 10 years, he’s handsome, intelligent, witty, and charismatic… Sorry, wrong wedding.

Just remember, think about your beginning, middle and end. It doesn’t have to be a very long speech but make sure you cover the important things - the bride and groom individually, the bride and groom as a couple, and a few pieces of advice for their future together. Tie it in with a few humorous jokes along the way and your speech is sure to be a winner and will have the audience in the palms of your hands.